9 signs of a narcissist: from healthy self-care to pathological narcissism
It feels like everyone has become a narcissist today. We give this diagnosis to celebrities who have acted ugly; politicians caught in unseemly actions; friends who constantly post successful photos on Instagram. When a specific term is applied to so many people, its meaning becomes blurred. The word “narcissist” has become a cliché, and we don’t even think about its real meaning. But in vain: true narcissism can be truly toxic to others, especially those close to you, and the ability to distinguish it from simple human weaknesses should be at least for your own safety.
Who deserves the title of “official” narcissist?
According to the DSM (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, USA), in order to receive such a diagnosis, a person must show at least five of the following:
- HUGE CONCEIT. A person exaggerates his own talents and success, requires others to recognize his superiority, while not having commensurate achievements.
- CONSTANT FANTASIES OF GREAT SUCCESS , power, brilliance, beauty, or perfect love.
- THE CONVICTION THAT HE IS SPECIAL AND UNIQUE and can only be understood by people (or organizations) with a special or high status, and he should only communicate with such people and work with such organizations.
- AN OVERWHELMING NEED TO BE ADMIRED.
- FEELING LIKE HE HAS SOME SPECIAL RIGHTS – unreasonable expectations from others of excessive favor or their automatic conformity to his expectations.
- CONSUMER ATTITUDE TOWARDS PEOPLE , their use for selfish purposes.
- LACK OF COMPASSION – The person is unwilling to understand or empathize with the feelings and needs of others.
- ENVY OR THE BELIEF THAT THEY ARE ENVIOUS OF HIM .
- DEMONSTRATION OF ARROGANCE AND ARROGANCE TOWARDS OTHERS.
Like the Narcissus from the ancient Greek myth, the modern narcissist is in love with his own reflection, only now he is looking for this reflection in the eyes and words of those around him. He needs recognition in the eyes of the interlocutor in order to maintain self-respect. The narcissist flourishes with admiration and suffers from inattention. He is dependent on external evaluation.